Many divorces become increasingly contentious as the proceedings go on, but most individuals undergoing divorce would rather achieve a simple and amicable split. Though it can seem difficult to get what you want without fighting for it, compromise can be the key to a mutually-beneficial outcome.
There are a few key matters that become the focal points during heated divorce proceedings. These are also the points on which you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse can find a compromise if you are willing to work together toward an amicable divorce.
1. Property division
Each spouse has certain personal possessions, real estate or other property that they wish to take away from the divorce. It is possible that neither side will be happy if the court decides how to divide property, but compromising outside of court can lead to a resolution that satisfies both parties.
2. Retirement assets
The fate of your retirement assets might be a similarly sensitive issue, especially if you contribute more to retirement savings than your spouse. Mediation offers the opportunity to negotiate other assets that your spouse can keep in exchange for your continued ownership over the retirement accounts.
3. Child custody
If there are children to consider in your divorce, then it goes without saying that custody will be the most important matter to determine. The courts will make a ruling based on the child’s best interests, but settling the matter privately with your spouse will ensure that you retain control over forming a parenting plan.
Compromising is rarely easy, but it can be more attainable through family and divorce mediation offered by the New York Courts. The result is a greater likelihood that you and your spouse maintain a healthy dynamic even after finalizing the split.